For One More Day
by Mitch Albom
“Have you ever lost someone you love and wanted one more conversation, one more chance to make up for the time when you thought they would be here forever? If so, then you know you can go your whole life collecting days, and none will outweigh the one you wish you had back.”
Our final book is about parent-children relationship. A book which everyone could relate to.
DISCUSSION LEADER- RYAN
MARK L. CATANIO
Why do you think Chick tried to commit
suicide? Was it for his ruined life, or was there something else behind it?
- No, we think that it was because of
his ruined life and there is nothing else. Because when we say there was
something else behind it, then what else could it be? There is nothing else.
Chick, we think, wanted to end-up his life because of his ruined life. His
daughter didn’t even invite him to her wedding, he was divorced to his wife, he
got no friend and he got no life at all. So, what else could it be?
What if Chick didn’t commit suicide?
Would it change his life, or just remain the same?
- No, it would just remain the same.
Because at first, we agreed that, it was his death that changes his current
fate. In his death, he had given a chance to change his mistake, where he
succeeds. He changes his fate, he was reunited to his family and her daughter
recognized him again. He was forgiven by the others and he forgave himself
also. But now, what if he didn’t commit suicide? We think that his fate and
life would not change, it would still be ruined. He will continue his life,
with the same routine as he was used to be. Then, he will die without reuniting
to his family.
In the end of the story, it was revealed
that the narrator is actually the daughter of Chick, so, how do you feel about
it?
- We feel actually shock but excited, though
we also feel sad, because it is in the ending part where the narrator revealed
her identity. We feel sympathy toward
the narrator, because her father died with that kind of life but we also feel
happy, because her father find a way to make them reunite and to be forgiven
and the narrator also forgave herself for what she did to her father.
What if the narrator is another person?
Would the ending have the same effect as the narrator is Chick’s daughter, or
would it be different?
- No, it would be different and not as
great as it will be when the narrator is Chick’s daughter. Because, we think
that the revelation of the narrator’s identity, somehow adds a big drama to the
whole story.
Is it possible to have the same event,
where in your death you have given a chance to change your greatest mistake?
- Maybe yes, maybe no. Half of our
group did not say yes, because of the fact that the book is only fiction, and
there is no factual evidence that could provide that this kind of even can
possible be happen. But some of us did say yes, including me. Because we
believe that God (thought God was not mentioned in the story) will find a way
to for you to have a chance to change your fate and to make the right things
out of your mistakes. Maybe not on death, but on our daily lives. We made
mistake and we take times making it, but God also given us time to change it;
to make the wrong things right.
COMMENT: Great questions raised! My favorite was the last one. Is it possible to have the same event, where in your death you have given a chance to change your greatest mistake? I've thought of that really hard. What if? I have so many regrets in my life, so many mistakes. However, if I change something in history, my whole life would turn out to be different and I wouldn't have known the people I treasure so much today.
PASSAGE PICKER- JOHN SALVADOR DEMDAM
“For One More Day” is a story about
Chick or Charley (as what her mother calls him), who tried to commit suicide.
Wanting to kill himself triggered when he received a wedding photo of his
daughter Maria, and the story goes on with his imagination or let me say
hallucination having the memories back again when he was on his childhood and
younger days, and this let him realize a lot of things.
While reading this novel, heartaches and of course
realizations take place within me. It is more of thinking what should I do, for
me not to regret things when the time comes, when the time that the important
things in my life will vanish. Later on, I will share more, after I will
present the passage I chose from this novel.
As the passage picker, I picked this passage/conversation
of Charley and her mother Posey.
"You should have had more dinner." she
said.
I rolled my eyes "Come on".
"What? I like knowing you've eaten, that's all.
You have to take care of yourself Charley."
I wish we'd done this before, Mom, you know?"
"You mean before I died?"
My voice went timid. "Yeah"
"I was here".
"I know".
"You were busy".
I wouldn't like to have this kind of conversation
someday. Aside from the reason that I would be afraid, that someday I'll be
just talking to myself alone and have an imaginary conversation with my mom,
Hohoho . I think that's quite horrible, but I think it’s okay? maybe super
okay? However, the conversation actually tells us of Charley's regret of
rejecting his mother for some of his mother’s doings unto him. He also close
his mind and didn’t listen of some of what his mother is telling him. He just
blamed of what happened to his earlier life to his mother. And that is what he
regrets most.
My mother also lacked her attention to us. I had
also many questions before. It’s too many to mention the questions. Although I
didn’t get all the answers of it, I still didn’t think of bad things to my
mother. The thought is that she's still the one who carried me for nine months
on her womb and bore me. Somehow she took care of me when I was young (I said
somehow, because as what I've said, she lacked her attention on us). Actually
my mom is not present at this very moment. She's not with us. Nonetheless, I
just want to figure out, how my mother is very important for me. After my
father's death, all I wanted is just to be with my mother always. I wanted to
be at her side. Although I didn’t regret on my father's death, I just really wanted
to express what love I have for my mother. Actually I am ashamed sometimes of
expressing it to my mom, but what's in my mind is that, will I express my love
for my mom when she's already gone? No way. That is why, even though that she's
afar from me, I am trying my best and make time to communicate with her, to
share how am I doing at school, to share all those failed exam scores and
indeed, my mother is really the one who made me strong and still go on. She
advices me to take care of myself and not mind of those scores, for those
scores will just let me have headache and heartache, how caring.
So that's it! Let us not wait for the time, because
now is the time. Let us not hesitate to express our feelings to our parents. I
know how it feels that it’s quite shameful, but let us just have it this way:
Just imagine your self being a parent someday. What would you feel if your
children will share or open up something on you? How does it feel?
You know, our parents are just waiting for us. They
are always there for us and they will never leave us.
COMMENT: Ate Herlyn Faye Dela Rosa once told me, "We often fail to write our name's middle initial not knowing it's one way to pay respect ro our mother.". It was an eye opener for me. Sometimes, we jut take our parents for granted, knowing that they're always there by our side. We only realize their importance once they are gone. So as long as they are still with us, we must show them how much they matter to us.
CHARACTER CAPTAIN- ELAIZA TERO
Charles “Chick” Benetto – the protagonist and from
the point of view of the unnamed narrator comes to his point of view narrating
his life. Charles or Chick was a baseball player and said to be a strong, cocky athlete, muscular and tall; a good looking
guy. He was a Papa’s when his father was still living with them. Chick grew up
with his mother and sister, and for a long time his longed for a fatherly love.
He married Catherine and they had a daughter named Maria. Chick was a depressed
man and tried to kill himself, and run away finding himself back to his old house there he had an hallucination seeing again his mother and by that
Chick knew the things he haven’t knew when he’s still young, there he also
realized that taking for granted his Mom’s love is one of the biggest mistakes
he made in his life.
Pauline “Posey” Benneto- The mother of
Chick, described as a beautiful woman
*according to Chick) had large,
almond-shaped eyes, dark and creamy complexion, indeed a very attractive and
candid woman. After her husband left them, she worked as a hairdresser to
support her family. In the novel you can see that Posey had been a good mother
to Chick and Roberta, she only wanted her son and daughter the good for them.
She died because of a heart attack. And even if she’s already dead, Chick’s
memories of her, helped Chick to realize the things he made.
Leonard “Len” Benetto – The father of
Chick, and was said to be Chick’s great sportsbuddy partner. He was a
perfectionist father, he wanted to make decisions out of his wife’s permission,
and because of that they divorced and that causes Chick to grew up without a
father.
Roberta Benetto- Chick’s sister. She
was described as a lovely girl and a Mama’s girl. At her young age, she
understands her family’s great dilemma starting when their father left them.
Catherine- Chick’s wife, they had a
daughter named Maria, and her relationship with Chick didn’t work for a long
time and Chick decided to end up their relationship.
Maria- The daughter of Chick, it was
revealed in the end that she was the narrator of the first part and last part
of the novel.
COMMENT: God job Elaiza!
CONNECTOR- ARJUN DANGO
Since the story is about the strong bond of
connections of the parents and their child, I can connect and relate this story
to the story of my uncle and his daughter.
Let me first tell the story of my uncle, Ramil, and
my cousin Mimi. Since birth, Mimi suffers from a disorder which I forgot what
it is called, and my uncle gives more attention to Mimi because of her
condition. There are certain words that I cannot forget what he said to his
wife, “If I will die first before Mimi, I’ll get her because I don’t want her
to suffer from her condition.” After months or a year, he died because of heart
attack. At his burial, my cousin told my aunt that he was there, watching over
Mimi. Months or a year after that incident, Mimi died because of multiple organ
failure in the age of 5. At her burial, again, my cousin saw my uncle, but this
time, he’s with Mimi now. He said that Mimi grew very beautiful and normal,
very different from her condition while she was alive.
We can see the sense of connections of those who
were alive and already dead, how the dead show their care to their love ones in
the living world, and how the living misses their late love ones. It may sound
strange, but we are influenced by the words of those who passed away and never
forget what always tell us. Like for Chick Benetto, he was still pursuing his
father’s dream for him. And in Seungri’s character in Angel Eyes, he bought her
grandmother new undergarment when he got his fist salary. Whatever misfortunes
we encounter in our life, merriment or not, let’s always remember that our
parents are always there for us even if they’re gone.
COMMENT: This brought me goosebumps! Especially the ability of Aj's cousin to see ghosts. It only shows that even people aren't here with us anymore, when we matter a lot to them, they would still show care. No matter what happens. They will find a way.
ARTISTIC DIRECTOR- RONALD II SURILLA
A Son’s Love
The wounds lies in your stomach
was served as my first shelter
there was food and cover
as I sleep comfortably from your pocket
Through pain I was deliver
as both tears shed that day
the moment I was given to my receiver
your warmth arms indeed I lay
Your love is exceptional and true
but my response are forced and few
for I was shy of my feelings
especially in times of my beatings
Sorry for making myself clever
all I want to say is I love you my mother
The wounds lies in your stomach
was served as my first shelter
there was food and cover
as I sleep comfortably from your pocket
Through pain I was deliver
as both tears shed that day
the moment I was given to my receiver
your warmth arms indeed I lay
Your love is exceptional and true
but my response are forced and few
for I was shy of my feelings
especially in times of my beatings
Sorry for making myself clever
all I want to say is I love you my mother
COMMENT: Ronald's poem is very heartfelt. Knowing that his father's not around anymore, I feel proud and amazed at the same time because he's really a responsible son and brother to her younger siblings. Kudos Ronald!
SUMMARIZER- JERMAINE L. DELA CRUZ (YOURS
TRULY)
“This
is a story about a family, and as there is a ghost involved, you might call it
a ghost story. But every family is a ghost story. The dead sit at
our tables long after they have gone.”
This
seemingly haunted story, as it was constructed as apparitions experienced by
the protagonist, the novel begins with the introduction of the narrator to be
believed by the readers as Chick Benetto, the protagonist in the novel as it
was his own perspective.
Chick's
narrative begins with a description of his attempted suicide, due to the mail
containing a photograph of his daughter's wedding - a wedding to which he
wasn't invited. Chick sees it as a disappointment to his ego as a failure to
his fatherhood. He prepares to kill himself, and then sets off on one last
journey to the small California town where he grew up. As he nears the town he
rolls his car in an attempt to avoid collision with a transport truck, but
survives. Unknowingly, he experiences a near-death experience. He walks into
town, climbs the same water tower he climbed as a child, and jumps off in
another attempt to kill himself. He survives the fall and awakens to see his
long dead mother standing over him.
Chick
walks into town, not believing what's happening is real but continues to go
thru it. He arrives at his childhood home, discovers that his mother is there,
and sits down to the breakfast she prepares, still disbelieving but thankful
for "one more day" with his mother. At first everything seems
incredibly normal: his mother chatting with her friends, as she always was and
doing all stuffs she used to be doing when she was alive.
Throughout
the conversation he goes back and forth between the one last day he had
with his mother and the important events in his life, sharing his
feelings– both past and present– about them. His recollections of his past,
which focus on his increasingly desperate attempts to engage his father in an
affectionate, open relationship are, in turn, focused on baseball, which
Chick's father wants him to play professionally. As a young boy Charley Benetto
makes the choice to be a daddy’s boy and does everything his father asks him
to. Then his father disappears, leaving a broken family and an
embarrassing situation for the young Charley to endure. Being raised by a
single mother has its challenges and plenty of embarrassment; many that Charley
takes out on his mother.
This
experience is sometimes interrupted by a male voice coming from Chick
knows-nowhere. The climax is when Posey takes Chick to visit his father's other
wife, and Chick is brought back to the world of the living by a young ambulance
attendant who is actually the source of the voice heard throughout the novel.
With this experience, he realizes the importance of having good relationship
between parents and their children.
In
the epilogue listing evidence that suggests Chick's story is true, it is also
revealed to the readers that the narrator is in fact Chick's long-estranged
daughter Maria, whose narration seems to be an embodiment of one of the novel's
key themes. Chick died about five years after his near-death experience.
VOCABULARY
ENRICHER- HARA VESSA ESCABARTE
Inexorably – (adj.)
impossible to stop or prevent: the seemingly inexorable march of new
technology: not able to be stopped or changed, not to be persuaded, moved or
stopped: relentless.
One day can bend your life, and that
day seemed to bend mine inexorably downward. (P.6)
Ricochet – (n.) a glancing
rebound (as a projectile of flat surface); also an object that ricochets.
“I don’t know, Chick, It’s like a ricochet.”
(P.23)
Apparition (n.) – a ghost or
spirit of a dead person.
I couldn’t tell at that point who or
what Rose was. An apparition? A real person? Her house felt real enough. (P.
41)
Admonished (v.) - to indicate
duties or obligations; to express warning or disapproval to especially in a
gentle, earnest or solicitous manner.
We sat there, admonished,
lowering our heads to the obligatory level for penance. (P.48)
Mimicked (adj.) a person who
copies someone’s behavior in speech especially for humor
I mimicked his deep, smoky
laugh. (p. 13)
Maneuvered (v.) – to move
something in a careful and usually a skillful way. (p.4)
To do something
in an effort to get an advantage, get out of a difficult situation. (p.53)
As I stood at the backstop, my finger
curled in the chain-link fence, an old man maneuvered a lawn mower over
the grass. (p. 4)
I instinctively jerked away from my
mother. “’Scuse please.” One of them said as ther maneuvered around us.
(p.53)
Grimaced (n)- a facial
reaction in which your mouth and face are twisted in a way that shows disgust,
disapproval or pain. (p.27 & 53)
,.. and she grimaced
at the cuts and mumbled … (p.27)
She grimaced as
if a pain were passing through her. (p. 54)
Inadvertently (adj.) Not
intended or not planned
She also, inadvertently,
invented my nickname. (p. 57)
Prophecies (n) - an inspired
utterance of a prophet, a statement that something will happen in the future.
After the war, my father, who owned a
liquor store, was more interested in profits than prophecies.
Fugitive (n) – a person who
flees or tries to escape; something elusive or hard to find
Now I walked toward that house with
my back hunched like a fugitive. (p. 21)
I keep that light on my mother and I see
her posture change, her head drops back, her shoulders slump, like a fugitive
Santa caught by the cops. (p. 40)
Prerogative (n) - a right or
privilege; a special right or privileged that some people have.
“Oh, a woman’s prerogative, I
guess.” (p.74)
Ornery (adj.) – easily annoyed
or angered; having an irritable disposition
I grew ornery and distant. (P. 7)
Taunt (n.) – a sarcastic
challenge or insult (p. 8)
It seemed to taunt my absence.
Blundering (v.) – to make a
stupid or careless mistake.
When he went blundering back to God,
…. (p. 8)
Blundering back to God. (p. 10)
Devoid (adj.) – being without
a usual, typical, or being expected attribute or accompaniment
I was a zombie, a robot, devoid of
concern for anyone, myself included myself, actually, at the top of the list.
(P.12)
AUTHORS PURPOSE
As the vocabulary enricher of the group,
based on the level of the words that was written above, the author’s purpose in
using these highlighted words, is to inculcate unto our mind that these are
used to fit in the idea of the author, it is most likely the very appropriate
words that could be used to complete his thoughts that he wanted to express, it
is also to covey vivid descriptions in dealing with the book that could help
his readers to enhance their vocabulary.
COMMENT: Hara did her part very well. To add to the author's purpose, I believe Albom used these words not to give his readers a hard time but to be able to express his ideas very well.